Venahafoch Hu: Tips for Eating from Megillas Esther: Restoring Sanctity to Eating … and to the Rest of our Lives


There are a number of lessons we can learn from Megillas Esther to help us with compulsive eating and, in general, with behaviors we would like to modify. Some of these have been discussed in previous articles in this series, which are available on the Where What When website.

Feel full and complete, not lacking: Haman had only one person (Mordechai) who did not bow down to him, and it was worth nothing to him that everyone else did bow down. He could not perceive himself as “full,” only as “lacking.” He inherited this bad trait from Adam’s eating of the Tree of Knowledge. Adam (Eve is included with Adam here) could eat from any tree in the garden but one. The serpent was able to convince Eve that she was lacking something, until she could not stand it and ate. This is one interpretation of the connection of Haman to the word “hamin” (both spelled H-M-N). Haman’s essence is included in Hashem’s question to Adam, “Hamin ha’etz… did you eat from the tree?”

The sense of lack is what drives us to eat. We can eat a plethora of fruit and vegetables, etc., but the food that we are trying to limit is the only food we want. And this sense of lacking is not sated by what we eat, rather continues on and on.

Write it down: The Megilla is full of people writing things down: Mordechai’s good deed in foiling the plans of Bigsan and Seresh to kill Achashverosh, Haman’s evil decree to kill the Jews, Mordechai and Esther’s decree permitting Jews to defend themselves, and transcribing the story of Purim for all generations. Something written can be forgotten, as Mordechai’s good deed was, but it can be restored by consulting the text. There is a permanence to writing, and writing indicates a commitment. What was written and sealed by the King could not be retracted.

There is a similar advantage in writing things down when one is trying to control eating. Virtually every nutritionist and diet specialist will tell you that writing down what you eat is the most effective tool for successful dieting. You can keep count of what you have eaten, without forgetting things. You can look back over the past and see what worked for you.

Seize the moment (or not): There are rapid actions and rapid transitions in the Megilla. Achashverosh decides in a moment of drunken anger (inspired by his advisors’[E1]  recommendation) to kill Vashti, and then regrets it afterward. Proclamations are rapidly written, and riders seem to be always rushing to send the latest proclamation. Haman can’t wait until morning to suggest to the King to hang Mordechai on a tree, and Achashverosh decides quickly to kill Haman.

There can be disadvantages to acting abruptly. It is easy to act in haste and then regret what one has done. This is prominent in our eating struggles. I find myself resisting, resisting, and resisting a food, and then breaking down in an instant to eat it – in part because I know if I deliberate on it I will probably not let myself eat it.

But there are also great advantages to seizing a moment of inspiration and taking it with you. It can be life-changing to hold onto a moment and transform your life through it. For me, I injured my back in 2012. Baruch Hashem, with an injection and with excellent physical therapy care by Estie Taragin, I was able to resume all my activities. But I said to myself that the one modifiable thing I could do for myself was to lose weight, and this inspired me to go on and lose successfully.

You can resist: Among the many parallels of the story of Purim to the story of Yosef’s ascent to power in a foreign palace in Egypt is a phrase used in both narratives. When Potifar’s wife attempts to seduce Yosef, it is a constant, relentless attempt, described as “And it was when she spoke to him day after day, and he didn’t listen to her (to be seduced).” And in Shushan, the attempts to get Mordechai to bow down before Haman were equally relentless: “And it was when they spoke to him day after day, and he didn’t listen to them.”

You can resist temptation and coercion over an extended period of time, whether the temptation comes in the form of torturing oneself about eating a food that is off limits (because it will provoke a binge, etc) or the “coercion” comes in the form of prodding by friends or family members that may go in directions you don’t want. You don’t have to get worn down.

Turn it upside down (venahafoch hu): What about turning around the way you approach your day’s eating? I tried this a few years ago successfully, even wrote about it, but somehow this trick escaped and I have not used it since. I am going to try it, as soon as Purim’s over. Suppose your problem, like mine, is difficulty controlling eating at night. Instead of defining your day of counting your points, calories, etc., from the morning, start your day in the evening, with supper. Then, when you finish supper, you are not stranded with no food left to eat on your meal plan. Rather, you can eat what you want and count it in the day’s tally. That means if you eat more at night, you will have less left to eat during the following day. On the other hand, you won’t be stranded at night with a desperate feeling that you should not be eating anything else. This also helps with eating before supper. If I know that my “day” starts again with supper and that I can eat relatively generously then, I won’t be so driven by my appetite on the way home from work or while making supper.

Finally, I am here for a purpose: Esther was galvanized by Mordechai telling her that she was put in her position to act for the Jewish people and that if she failed, she and her family would be lost but Israel’s salvation would come from elsewhere.

We are not in such dramatic positions. Nonetheless, each of us was put where we are to fulfill a specific purpose in this world. If I am devoting a lot of time to thinking about eating and food, it is distracting me from the more purposeful things I could be doing. The directive “Shivisi Hashem lenegdi tamid (I have set Hashem next to me always)” is incompatible with existing in a state of bingeing and unreality. We have a holier purpose in this world, and we should not let our physical urges detract from this.

Purim tells us that the physical can also be a way to relate to and come close to Hashem; that’s why our holiest day is called, Yom Kippurim, a day like Purim. Both have the potential to elevate us.


Janet Sunness is medical director of the Richard E. Hoover Low Vision Rehabilitation Services at the Greater Baltimore Medical Center. She gives classes and talks on a variety of topics in the Baltimore area for the Women’s Institute of Torah and Cong. Shomrei Emunah. She can be reached at © Janet Sunness 2017



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