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How to Be Married to a Man


You may be thinking that I, as a man, am not the right person to be writing about how to be married to one. After all, I clearly have no experience. However, it so happens that I have a very close connection to someone who does have lots of experience in this area, and together we have collected some relevant psychological data.

The points I will share are grounded in the assumption that men and women have dissimilar ways of doing many things. (I know that not all men do it “the man way” and not all women do it “the woman way.” We’re talking in general.) Here, then, are a few tips for wives who are trying to survive and thrive through the experience of being married to a man.

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Sensory Disorders

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I would like to state that everyone, at some point, experiences sensory perception difficulties. These are not the types of conditions described in a neurology textbook but, rather, deficits that are household specific. I have observed that these conditions can affect our ability to see, hear, taste, and even smell.

I recently had an experience that made me realize I had developed the visual processing disorder commonly associated with adults when their children become teenagers. Because this stage often coincides with a decline in eyesight, it is easy to confuse it with your growing need for bifocals. Perhaps my experience will help you determine whether you need new glasses, or not.


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Explaining the Inexplicable

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There is a timeless Yiddish saying - "Vos es feilt in hasbarah, feilt in havanah" - that is probably most appropriate in analyzing your dilemma in responding to your child's questions regarding this horrible tragedy. Loosely translated, it expresses the stark truth that when we find it difficult to explain concepts to others (hasbarah means to explain, while havanah denotes understanding) it is often because we ourselves don't understand them fully.

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In a Pickle


Parenting is a learning experience – and the people we most often learn from are our children. Some of the main areas of educational instruction we receive from our children fall under the broad umbrella of economics, capitalism, and a free market economy. First let me state that this education is not free, it is not voluntary, and it is certainly not painless.

It all begins with the widely-accepted notion that sharing is good. Now, I’m not saying that sharing isn’t good, I’m just saying you need to be careful. Sharing instruction begins when children are approximately two years old. If you think back to when you first began parenting toddlers, you may recall that sharing is clearly not on their priority list. They prefer the grab-and-run method. It’s only with parental nurturing – also known as interference – that sharing becomes part of a toddler’s frame of reference. At this point the toddler has to make a decision: He must either learn to run faster or bite the bullet (not the other child’s arm!) and come to terms with the fact that sharing is here to stay.

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Bullying: New Thoughts on an Old Problem

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A child comes home from school in tears, telling his parents he was bullied in school. What should the parents do? The father’s response is often, “Hit him back!” while the mother counsels the child to “tell the teacher.” Sound familiar? These parents’ differing reactions to this common scenario graphically demonstrate the confusion that exists, even among the experts, about the best way to deal with bullying.

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Vacation Time


Let’s leave finance aside for one month and talk about some summer fun. I have written in the past about the great American West. I am truly sad to hear how few people have seen our fantastic national parks. Perhaps it is because many of us do not know how to choreograph trips to these far flung paradises. I would therefore like to plan a sample getaway for you.

Many people nowadays have accumulated frequent flyer miles, which allow you to fly for free. My favorite credit card for miles is the Southwest Visa card by Chase. It gives you the greatest flexibility when it comes to booking travel. This past summer, I used some of my miles to take a wonderful vacation to Arizona. This trip is not expensive when done with these free points, and collecting enough miles to pull it off is quite manageable.

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