Where What WhenArticles about ShidduchimA Shidduch Question - A"Great Guy," But ..He's Divorced. I am 25 years old, and have been dating since I was 19. While I am not "old," I am not very young, either. I was recently redt to a "great guy," but there is one catch: he's divorced. The shadchan, for whom I have a lot of respect, has assured me .......... ............Read More By Mashe Katz Volume: August 2010 by One Voice of Many in our Community The more I attempt to make shidduchim, the more I realize that many people are creating their own shidduch crisis. I have tried numerous times to speak to the parents of boys about amazing girls whom I know .......... ............Read More Is My Son Doing Something Wrong On The Dates Every time my son goes out with a girl, she immediately decides that it won’t work. Most of the girls do not even give him a second date. He’s a nice person and very presentable. I wonder why the girls are so negative. What do they want? Is he doing something wrong on the dates? Is he dating the wrong type of girl? We don’t even get much feedback. Please help! ............Read More By Freda Goldman Volume: June 2010 What To Do - Horrible-looking Engagement Ring I recently got engaged to a wonderful boy. While this is an extremely exciting and happy time for me, there is one issue that is really bothering me. My chasan gave me a horrible-looking engagement ring, which my mother-in-law picked out. It's not to my taste at all; I hate it and can't see myself wearing it. I am even embarrassed to show it to my friends. ............Read More By Esther Kayla Fleischman Volume: May 2010 Ask the Shadchan - Eating Habits I was fixed up with a guy and we've gone out five times. I like him very much. He is considerate, sweet, caring, responsible, and very, very nice - everything I have always wanted in a husband. The problem is he has zero polish. And I mean zero! ............Read More By Dr. Jonathan M. Lasson Volume: April 2010 Dear Doctor - Crohn's Disease and Shidduchim Crohn's Disease. How the disease will affect our daughter. How likely is it that it will affect any children of the marriage? What is the proper hishtadlus (action) when you find out that a potential shidduch has a serious health problem? ............Read More By Dr. Yoel Jakobovits Volume: March 2010 I have noticed that her numerous married sisters share one particular characteristic: None of them likes her in-laws. Many times, I have heard the sisters' husbands say something like, "Let's go to my parents," and his wife says, "I don't want to do that." The sisters don't seem to like to spend time with anyone but their own family. Their husbands have to work very hard to get them to go to theirs. ............Read More By Mashe Katz Volume: March 2010 ShidduchVision Debuts in Baltimore: The Reviews Are In Live, interactive, professional-grade video-conferencing equipment, he thought, could be used as a platform for couples to meet for the first time. This would eliminate some of the deterrents inherent in the present system of out-of-town shidduch dating - time, travel, and expense - and much heartache might hopefully be prevented. Thus, ShidduchVision was born! ............Read More By Margie Pensak Volume: March 2010 Photo along with a Shidduch Resume My mother is working on a shidduch for me and was asked to send my photo along with my resume. I talked to some of my friends, and it seems that this is a new "trend." I feel demeaned by this request, as though I were applying for a modeling job, where the most important thing about me are the high cheek bones, the blond hair - and oh, let's not to forget the dress size. ............Read More By Esther Kayla Fleischman Volume: January 2010 Why is it hard to find girls who want to go out with me? Why is it that the girls all seem to want the exact same thing - a boy in yeshiva? I personally know of boys who are in the yeshiva only so they can have access to lots of girls. Then, soon after they get married, they go to work. ............Read More By Mashe Katz Volume: November 2009 I'm an "older guy." I have dated more women than I can count. I don't know why things haven't worked out for me yet; maybe I wasn't ready, emotionally or financially. ............Read More By Eve Messing Volume: October 2009 Quite a few girls have been suggested for him, and all of them sound wonderful. The problem is that they sound very similar. We know they can't be the same, but people tend to use the same adjectives to describe girls ............Read More By Rabbi Meyer Brull Volume: September 2009 This is the first article of a new column, "Ask the Shadchan." Please send your questions and suggestions to the Where What When. ............Read More By WWW Volume: August 2009 WWW takes you behind the scenes as some of Baltimore's shadchanim share some personal anecdotes and sage advice. It is quite obvious from just a small peek into their lives that arranging shidduchim is not only their day's work but their life's mission. ............Read More By Margie Pensak Volume: July 2009 I am a frum young woman who is looking to find my bashert as you are The secular world defines beauty as the way someone looks on the outside. As Jews, we believe in looking deeperI’m trying to lose weight. I consider carefully what I eat, and I exercise regularly. ............Read More By E.G. Edelson Volume: September 2008 Baltimore Hires a Full-Time Shadchan Why not employ a full-time shadchan to look after Baltimore’s singles?Baltimore has joined the ranks of cities like Passaic, Chicago, Toronto, and Los Angeles, who have hired or are in the process of hiring a shadchan. ............Read More By Margie Pensak Volume: September 2008 An American Bachur in Queen Victoria’s (Dating) Court As is true for present-day seminary girls, marriage was the ultimate goal of every young Victorian woman, becoming a priority by age 18.1883 edition of The Universal Self-Instructor and Manual of General Reference ............Read More By Margie Pensak Volume: Purim March II 2008 Mrs. Lerner fussed over her son’s tie as they rushed to get ready for their appointment at the Shidduch Mall.Shocking, isn’t it? She threw away all caution, knowing that she had already blown this date; things couldn’t possibly get any worse ............Read More By E.G. Edelson Volume: February 2008 Dates should be fun, not serious. The serious part comes later, when you already have more of a relationship. Just try to relax and have a good timeHow does today’s dating scene in Baltimore compare? I decided to poll both men and women daters, of all ages, about their best and worst dating venues, and asked them for their advice. Let’s see how their experiences compare. ............Read More By Margie Pensak Volume: January 2008 Moving Through the Seven Gates - Shaya Ostrov- The Inner Circle: Seven Gates to Marriage Shaya Ostrov, L.C.S.W., author of The Inner Circle: Seven Gates to Marriage, explains that something akin to the shidduch crisis is occurring in all modern Western societies. “Shaya Ostrov, L.C.S.W., author of The Inner Circle: Seven Gates to Marriage, explains that something akin to the shidduch crisis is occurring in all modern Western societies. “ ............Read More By Eta Kushner Volume: November 2007 Shidduch Secrets: A Book Review It seems we can surmise what’s on people’s minds by the number of books published per year on a particular subject. Several books recently try to define and propose some solutions to the “shidduch crisis,” the most recently recognized “problem” in our community. ............Read More By WWW Volume: February 2007 More Than 100 Baltimore Singles Meet the ShadchanimIn the midst of the relentless shidduch crisis facing this generation, a beacon of light appeared on Shabbos, parshas Shemos (January 12 to 14) at the Pearlstone Retreat and Conference Center. Kol Simcha, Baltimore’s innovative shidduch organization, hosted a gathering of renowned East Coast shadchanim (matchmakers) to network with one another in the hope of “Making Shidduchim Happen,” as the weekend was aptly titled. ............Read More By Sharon N. Galkin Volume: February 2007 The Where What When received several phone calls in recent months asking why “The Shadchan in You” did not appear in the last few issues of the magazine. We’re glad you noticed and are pleased to bring the feature back. ............Read More By WWW Volume: Chanukah December 2006 So What If She’s Older Than Me?Three weeks ago I did something I have never ever done before. I danced at a cemetery. It’s a long story. You see, Mrs. Bernstein had been teaching for 30 years and had never attended a Torah Umesorah convention – a conclave designed to help inspire and instruct teachers in religious schools across the U.S. ............Read More By Rabbi Yaakov Salomon Volume: October 2006 have an advanced degree in human genetics and health policy; I’ve always been especially interested in the social impact of genomic research. For my doctoral dissertation research, at the Johns Hopkins School of Public Health, ............Read More By Dr. Ilana Mittman Volume: Rosh Hashanah September 2006 t was a full house at the home of Jan and Blumie Loeb on the evening of Tuesday, July 18, as approximately 60 single women listened to Rabbi Leib Kelemen speak about “What Every Single Woman Should Know Before She Chooses Her Husband.” They came in spite of the record heat, and arrived in the midst of a drenching thunderstorm. But they all got what they came for – an interesting, inspiring, and very practical Torah-based approach to dating and marriage. ............Read More By WWW Volume: August 2006 On this third “Shadchan in You” page, we are profiling three single men and one woman. We continue to field inquiries about the singles presented in the previous issues. Anyone who calls about one of our profiled singles is referred to that person’s shadchan, who works on that individual’s behalf with respect and sensitivity. ............Read More The Where What When and Kol Simcha would like to thank the community for its enthusiastic response to our first “Shadchan in You” page. Kol Simcha received numerous calls from people who read the profiles and thought that one of the featured singles might be appropriate for their child, sibling, or friend. ............Read More Preparing Our Sons for MarriageDespite the snow-covered roads this past Tu B’shevat, a determined group of moms ventured outside to participate in a new Kol Simcha workshop entitled “Toras Imecha: How to Help Your Son Make a Successful Shidduch. ............Read More By Rena Levin Volume: Pesach April 2006 Secular Ideals Meet Frum Dating by An Anonymous ObserverI have always dabbled in shidduchim, but last Rosh Hashana I made a resolution to really concentrate on helping people try to get married. I started getting more involved in shidduch meetings, lectures, and internet dating sites. ............Read More By WWW Volume: February 2006 Making Shidduchim Happen, Again Kol Simcha’s November Symposium, “Making Shidduchim Happen,” was graced with an overwhelming participation by the Baltimore community. It is most encouraging that the making of shidduchim has entered the consciousness of those who attended the various parts of the event, prompting proactive communal shidduch involvement. ............Read More By Tova Rappaport Volume: January 2006 Partnership for Educational Needs To the Editor, I would like to update you on the progress of the PEN Project (Partnership for Educational Needs). We have been distributing our Release of Information Forms to members of our community to ensure that every child with a disability is located, evaluated, and offered services, where appropriate. We received nearly 370 forms by fax or mail. ............Read More By To The Editor Volume: January 2006 Thinking About Shidduchim by Anonymous To the people who’ve been talking About the issue at hand, How will all these girls get married? What’s wrong? you all demand. ............Read More By Stephanie Savir Volume: Chanukah December 2005 Three-Part Formula: The Right One, the Right Time and the Right ShaliachAfter my last article appeared in the Where What When, someone near and dear to me took me aside and gently said: “Sharon, you’re in a rut. Now don’t misunderstand,” she continued, “I like the way you write, but can’t you tackle another topic? Israel, Israel, Israel…that’s all you ever write about. ............Read More By Sharon N. Galkin Volume: November 2005 Interviews with Mrs. Rosie Einhorn and Rabbi Yaakov SalomonSay the word “crisis,” and parents with daughters of a certain age shudder, shadchanim nod in recognition, and singles recount dating experiences at once frustrating, funny, and sad. Many hundreds of frum single women over the age of 25 live in Baltimore alone – over 1,000 if we count from age 22. ............Read More By Elaine Berkowitz Volume: Sukkos October 2005 |
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