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If you are coming from overseas, or from out of ciated. For a teenager, buy the latest
town and arriving a few days before Pesach, respect book or bestselling music CD. You are
your parents’ accommodations for eating chometz. invading their space, and they will be
helping you with the children. Show
to your mother’s house, emphasizing your children before Yom Tov. Stealing that you are grateful for their help.
that it’s a privilege to help Bubby. and then returning the afikomen is one
of the highlights of the Pesach Seder. Prepare any special blankets, paci-
Pesach is a Yom Tov when chumros Listen to your children’s ideas and fiers, stuffed animals, or bottles that
(stringencies) are an accepted phenom- expectations, and if you feel that what your children need to help them fall
enon. If your parents have chumros that they want is beyond your parents’ asleep. If there will be other children
your family doesn’t keep, respect them. budget, steer them towards something there, it’s advisable to label your bottles.
Do not bring foods into the house that more affordable. There’s nothing wrong
might upset your parents. Trust me, with telling children that something is If you are coming from overseas, or
your children will survive without lol- too expensive for Bubby and Zeidy (out from out of town and arriving a few days
lipops or ketchup for eight days. of their earshot, of course). If appropri- before Pesach, respect your parents’
ate, try suggesting that they ask for one accommodations for eating chometz.
If, on the other hand, you have thing that they could all share. This Watch your children diligently, and do
chumros that your parents do not advance preparation will make the not allow them to eat away from the
observe, a little sensitivity is called for. actual event as pleasant and stress free designated area. Even kosher-for-
Ask your rabbi how to deal with it. as it is meant to be. Pesach foods should be restricted. Your
Many families have this issue, such as mother definitely does not want to find
gebrochts vs. non-gebrochts, yet with a If you have younger siblings still at crumbs anywhere that is already
little advance discussion, the family can home, bring something for them. If cleaned for Pesach, regardless of
still enjoy being together over Yom Tov. doesn’t have to be expensive. whether they are chometz or Pesachdig.
Clearing the air before Yom Tov goes a Stationary, stickers or matchbox cars to
long way toward assuring a harmonious add to a collection, or a cute hair orna- Don’t just pay lip service to “let me
atmosphere. ment for a little sister are always appre- serve the meal.” Get up and show that
you are willing and able. Your mother
Discuss afikomen presents with will gratefully sit back and instruct you
in the various courses. Even if she does
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town and arriving a few days before Pesach, respect book or bestselling music CD. You are
your parents’ accommodations for eating chometz. invading their space, and they will be
helping you with the children. Show
to your mother’s house, emphasizing your children before Yom Tov. Stealing that you are grateful for their help.
that it’s a privilege to help Bubby. and then returning the afikomen is one
of the highlights of the Pesach Seder. Prepare any special blankets, paci-
Pesach is a Yom Tov when chumros Listen to your children’s ideas and fiers, stuffed animals, or bottles that
(stringencies) are an accepted phenom- expectations, and if you feel that what your children need to help them fall
enon. If your parents have chumros that they want is beyond your parents’ asleep. If there will be other children
your family doesn’t keep, respect them. budget, steer them towards something there, it’s advisable to label your bottles.
Do not bring foods into the house that more affordable. There’s nothing wrong
might upset your parents. Trust me, with telling children that something is If you are coming from overseas, or
your children will survive without lol- too expensive for Bubby and Zeidy (out from out of town and arriving a few days
lipops or ketchup for eight days. of their earshot, of course). If appropri- before Pesach, respect your parents’
ate, try suggesting that they ask for one accommodations for eating chometz.
If, on the other hand, you have thing that they could all share. This Watch your children diligently, and do
chumros that your parents do not advance preparation will make the not allow them to eat away from the
observe, a little sensitivity is called for. actual event as pleasant and stress free designated area. Even kosher-for-
Ask your rabbi how to deal with it. as it is meant to be. Pesach foods should be restricted. Your
Many families have this issue, such as mother definitely does not want to find
gebrochts vs. non-gebrochts, yet with a If you have younger siblings still at crumbs anywhere that is already
little advance discussion, the family can home, bring something for them. If cleaned for Pesach, regardless of
still enjoy being together over Yom Tov. doesn’t have to be expensive. whether they are chometz or Pesachdig.
Clearing the air before Yom Tov goes a Stationary, stickers or matchbox cars to
long way toward assuring a harmonious add to a collection, or a cute hair orna- Don’t just pay lip service to “let me
atmosphere. ment for a little sister are always appre- serve the meal.” Get up and show that
you are willing and able. Your mother
Discuss afikomen presents with will gratefully sit back and instruct you
in the various courses. Even if she does
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