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is often left frustrated, debased, and alike would do well to reflect upon this center as a mother parked her car and
helpless. This sad scenario has spawned and resolve to prepare our young singles exited in order to pick up her child. She
a plethora of workshops for singles, accordingly by granting them primary left the keys in the ignition with the
something that just 30 years ago was ownership of the shidduch process al- motor running.
unknown, unnecessary, and would have most from the outset. Otherwise, how
been regarded as bizarre indeed. can we expect our children to attain full When I called out to her, she replied
adulthood on a dime?! that there’s an older child in the car.
As Mrs. Katz points out, young men (He looked to me to be about maybe
and women used to date more autono- As a practical matter, a loving, sup- seven or eight years old!) I recounted
mously. A shadchan’s role was normally portive parent may wish to cursorily to her how in a similar situation on
quite limited, and the parents’ role was check out references and do precious Labyrinth Road, someone passing by
practically nonexistent. When the boy little else. What’s the worst that can got into the driver’s seat and drove
or girl sought references or needed a happen? Perhaps the girl will be a year away with a van full of kids. This was
guide/mentor, they knew where to turn older than the boy. Perhaps there is a not the first time, nor the second, that
and did so at their own initiative. This sibling with a serious but non-genetic I have witnessed this behavior. Please,
system worked efficiently and did not, health disorder. Perhaps a prospective parents, be careful.
on its own, generate any spike in the di- mechutan, on the resume, misrepre-
vorce rate. sented his position in his law firm. So MIRYOM EDELSON
what? Whose problem is this? I plead
What is the point of all this? A mashal: with our frum community to take heed TO THE EDITOR,
When the big day comes, it is the par- of this often-neglected aspect of the This is for all the wonderful people
ents who walk their son or daughter shidduch crisis for the sake of our chil-
down the aisle to the chupa. But did you dren. We are losing doros. who generously prepare treats to give
ever notice anyone escorting the couple out to children during Simchas Torah. In
from the chupa (new trend, anybody)? HOWARD TZVI ELLING planning ahead for next year, it would be
In short, with the possible exception of great if you could try to distribute those
monetary support, marriage immediately TO THE EDITOR, that can be easily opened without ripping
ushers in a life of total independence and I just walked past a local daycare words.
responsibility. Parents and shadchanim
BRACHA GOETZ
410-343-9756
32 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
helpless. This sad scenario has spawned and resolve to prepare our young singles exited in order to pick up her child. She
a plethora of workshops for singles, accordingly by granting them primary left the keys in the ignition with the
something that just 30 years ago was ownership of the shidduch process al- motor running.
unknown, unnecessary, and would have most from the outset. Otherwise, how
been regarded as bizarre indeed. can we expect our children to attain full When I called out to her, she replied
adulthood on a dime?! that there’s an older child in the car.
As Mrs. Katz points out, young men (He looked to me to be about maybe
and women used to date more autono- As a practical matter, a loving, sup- seven or eight years old!) I recounted
mously. A shadchan’s role was normally portive parent may wish to cursorily to her how in a similar situation on
quite limited, and the parents’ role was check out references and do precious Labyrinth Road, someone passing by
practically nonexistent. When the boy little else. What’s the worst that can got into the driver’s seat and drove
or girl sought references or needed a happen? Perhaps the girl will be a year away with a van full of kids. This was
guide/mentor, they knew where to turn older than the boy. Perhaps there is a not the first time, nor the second, that
and did so at their own initiative. This sibling with a serious but non-genetic I have witnessed this behavior. Please,
system worked efficiently and did not, health disorder. Perhaps a prospective parents, be careful.
on its own, generate any spike in the di- mechutan, on the resume, misrepre-
vorce rate. sented his position in his law firm. So MIRYOM EDELSON
what? Whose problem is this? I plead
What is the point of all this? A mashal: with our frum community to take heed TO THE EDITOR,
When the big day comes, it is the par- of this often-neglected aspect of the This is for all the wonderful people
ents who walk their son or daughter shidduch crisis for the sake of our chil-
down the aisle to the chupa. But did you dren. We are losing doros. who generously prepare treats to give
ever notice anyone escorting the couple out to children during Simchas Torah. In
from the chupa (new trend, anybody)? HOWARD TZVI ELLING planning ahead for next year, it would be
In short, with the possible exception of great if you could try to distribute those
monetary support, marriage immediately TO THE EDITOR, that can be easily opened without ripping
ushers in a life of total independence and I just walked past a local daycare words.
responsibility. Parents and shadchanim
BRACHA GOETZ
410-343-9756
32 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
