After several failed attempts, you finally pick up the phone, call that recommended therapist, and schedule a session. No turning back now. As the day approaches, you wonder what it’s going to be like. The day finally arrives, you enter the office, shake his hand with sweaty palms, and sink into the couch. After exchanging pleasantries, the question is posed: “So what are you hoping to get out of therapy?”

Invariably, that question triggers a look of puzzlement. “Hmmm… Good question… I guess to stop drinking, fighting, worrying, missing school, crying, cutting [fill in the blank]?” Or perhaps a panicked reaction: “I have no idea! How am I supposed to know? Aren’t you supposed to tell me? Stop pressuring me!”