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Shel Olam that I was granted the priv- ing a hard time of it. Many, many girls it has every right to make any policies to
ilege to have her as a friend and confi- will not even entertain the thought of that end. True, we keep kosher and will
dante. May her neshama have an aliyah dating a guy who smokes. He smells ter- not be buying their food, but that does
and continue to be a meilitza yosher for rible and, more importantly, the girls are not negate the fact that they have the
her family and all of klal Yisrael. not interested in signing up for a life with right to expect that we will follow their
an increased risk of losing their husband policies. Or, to put it a different way, we
CHANA KAGAN to cancer (or fighting not to). are currently in galus, and until Mashi-
ach comes, we do not have the right
TO THE EDITOR, So, even if all the other guys in shiur to feel that wonderful “magiah li” (it’s
This message is to all bachurim head- are doing it, even if the rebbi (!) hands coming to me) emotion that led to the
out cigarettes, even if it is cool (nobody request for special service.
ing for yeshiva and their parents. What I got hooked on smoking because it tast-
am going to say probably applies most- ed or felt wonderful – not the first times, Publishing the letter turned the situa-
ly but not exclusively to yeshivas in Is- that’s for sure!) – please muster all of tion into a double chillul Hashem, com-
rael. It is not new, but it is important. your thinking-ahead power, and just pounded by the fact that a reputable pub-
Bachurim, please take this to heart, and don’t do it. Behatzlacha! lication chose to publicize this scenario.
parents, impress this upon your sons: Doing so made it seem like all Jews feel
Don’t smoke. Don’t start. It is tempting, CONCERNED that rules don’t apply to them, and that
but don’t do it. Aside from all the health they can boycott anyone who does not
risks, which you may or may not appre- TO THE EDITOR, allow them to disregard those rules. I
ciate, I am actually thinking of this topic I was appalled to read the letter in last would like to make it clear that, as Jews,
right now because of shidduchim – no, we follow the rules of the world we live
not one of the ridiculous, oh-my-good- month’s WWW about the supposed gall in – even at bowling alleys.
ness reasons for why you can’t do this or of the AMF bowling alley. The letter writ-
that “because shidduchim.” Rather, I am er seemed to feel discriminated against KEREN PERLES
involved in shidduchim at the moment because kosher-keeping Jews need to fol-
with a young man who smokes (he start- low the same rules as other customers. TO THE EDITOR,
ed in Eretz Yisrael), and he is really hav- The bowling alley would like its custom- In response to the letter from A Com-
ers to buy the food that it produces, and
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ilege to have her as a friend and confi- will not even entertain the thought of that end. True, we keep kosher and will
dante. May her neshama have an aliyah dating a guy who smokes. He smells ter- not be buying their food, but that does
and continue to be a meilitza yosher for rible and, more importantly, the girls are not negate the fact that they have the
her family and all of klal Yisrael. not interested in signing up for a life with right to expect that we will follow their
an increased risk of losing their husband policies. Or, to put it a different way, we
CHANA KAGAN to cancer (or fighting not to). are currently in galus, and until Mashi-
ach comes, we do not have the right
TO THE EDITOR, So, even if all the other guys in shiur to feel that wonderful “magiah li” (it’s
This message is to all bachurim head- are doing it, even if the rebbi (!) hands coming to me) emotion that led to the
out cigarettes, even if it is cool (nobody request for special service.
ing for yeshiva and their parents. What I got hooked on smoking because it tast-
am going to say probably applies most- ed or felt wonderful – not the first times, Publishing the letter turned the situa-
ly but not exclusively to yeshivas in Is- that’s for sure!) – please muster all of tion into a double chillul Hashem, com-
rael. It is not new, but it is important. your thinking-ahead power, and just pounded by the fact that a reputable pub-
Bachurim, please take this to heart, and don’t do it. Behatzlacha! lication chose to publicize this scenario.
parents, impress this upon your sons: Doing so made it seem like all Jews feel
Don’t smoke. Don’t start. It is tempting, CONCERNED that rules don’t apply to them, and that
but don’t do it. Aside from all the health they can boycott anyone who does not
risks, which you may or may not appre- TO THE EDITOR, allow them to disregard those rules. I
ciate, I am actually thinking of this topic I was appalled to read the letter in last would like to make it clear that, as Jews,
right now because of shidduchim – no, we follow the rules of the world we live
not one of the ridiculous, oh-my-good- month’s WWW about the supposed gall in – even at bowling alleys.
ness reasons for why you can’t do this or of the AMF bowling alley. The letter writ-
that “because shidduchim.” Rather, I am er seemed to feel discriminated against KEREN PERLES
involved in shidduchim at the moment because kosher-keeping Jews need to fol-
with a young man who smokes (he start- low the same rules as other customers. TO THE EDITOR,
ed in Eretz Yisrael), and he is really hav- The bowling alley would like its custom- In response to the letter from A Com-
ers to buy the food that it produces, and
26 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
