Page 84 - issue
P. 84
SHADCHANASKTHE ingrained character defects that are still
ITo the Shadchan: BY MASHE KATZ relevant. Or maybe he is now using his
have been inquiring about a young chutzpa, etc. for good things. How can
man who was redt to my daughter. professional, who is working after learn- I find out which scenario is the correct
I happened to meet a friend of mine ing in yeshiva for a few years. More recent one? Or should I chalk it all up to being
who is a teacher and taught him in references have only good things to say a teenager?
10th grade. This boy seems to have about him. It seems he is a hard work-
been a troublemaker at that age. er with good middos. He comes from a If you think that information from the
My friend could not say anything good family, and everything checks out past is relevant, what would be the cut-
nice about him. She told me he was okay. off age, before which we should not take
chutzpadik and gave her a hard time. information seriously? Obviously, no one
My question is how much credence would pay attention to the way a person
This young man is 23 now. He is a should I give to the teacher’s words. behaved when he was in kindergarten.
Maybe the attributes that made him be- Or would they? I would appreciate your
have badly when he was 15 are deeply advice and opinion.
FThe Shadchan Answers:
irst of all, I am amazed that you
would ask someone who taught
the young man in 10th grade for
information. I assume this boy
went to a yeshiva high school,
and we know that yeshivas
don’t always give the secular
department the proper atten-
tion it deserves. Many boys “act out”
during their classes just to be “one of
the boys.”
76 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
ITo the Shadchan: BY MASHE KATZ relevant. Or maybe he is now using his
have been inquiring about a young chutzpa, etc. for good things. How can
man who was redt to my daughter. professional, who is working after learn- I find out which scenario is the correct
I happened to meet a friend of mine ing in yeshiva for a few years. More recent one? Or should I chalk it all up to being
who is a teacher and taught him in references have only good things to say a teenager?
10th grade. This boy seems to have about him. It seems he is a hard work-
been a troublemaker at that age. er with good middos. He comes from a If you think that information from the
My friend could not say anything good family, and everything checks out past is relevant, what would be the cut-
nice about him. She told me he was okay. off age, before which we should not take
chutzpadik and gave her a hard time. information seriously? Obviously, no one
My question is how much credence would pay attention to the way a person
This young man is 23 now. He is a should I give to the teacher’s words. behaved when he was in kindergarten.
Maybe the attributes that made him be- Or would they? I would appreciate your
have badly when he was 15 are deeply advice and opinion.
FThe Shadchan Answers:
irst of all, I am amazed that you
would ask someone who taught
the young man in 10th grade for
information. I assume this boy
went to a yeshiva high school,
and we know that yeshivas
don’t always give the secular
department the proper atten-
tion it deserves. Many boys “act out”
during their classes just to be “one of
the boys.”
76 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
