Dear Rabbi Hochberg,

The other day I overheard my teenage daughter on the phone with her friend, and she sounded very angry. Although I was unable to make out what was going on, it disturbed me to see how angry she was. It’s not the first time she has gotten furious over something. To be honest, anger is a trait I also struggle with, and perhaps that’s why I was so bothered to see it in my daughter. I want to show her how to deal with life without getting so angry. Usually I explain to her why anger is not a good midda, but I haven’t found that to be very helpful. Is there a way to teach her to be less mad?

Mother in a Quandary

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