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to 40. All the girls were dressed very us to find each other. I had given up all Shul rabbis, mechanchim, teachers,
respectably and were frum, educated, and hope of ever marrying. I resigned myself mothers and fathers, let us show that we
attractive, yet they were not married. to being a wonderful and fun aunt to my do indeed live by the code that we
Loneliness, heartache, and often shame nieces and nephews. But just when I preach; achdus and areivus. If any of
were their common denominator. thought all was lost, there stood my these girls were your daughter, grand-
bashert. daughter, sister, etc., would you walk away
Words can’t describe the emotion I felt from their cry and do nothing?
when speaking with some of these young Truthfully, he was not at all a match
women one on one. Some told me of the for me on paper, as I have described The “singles crisis” is not in the great
difficulties they were having with shad- above. Finally, I could see that Hashem number of girls and boys whose only wish
chanim. Others told me that they have hadn’t forgotten about me. He was say- is to build a bayis ne’eman b’Yisrael;
been sitting at home for more than six ing, “Now is your time. Now you are rather, the crisis is in the lack of commu-
months without their phone ringing with ready.” I was then able to truly look at my nity and personal involvement in helping
the possibility of a date on the other end. husband and not at his “shidduch our children. Our past efforts – such as
Still another told me that when she hum- resume.” I saw him for what he was: a mixers, speed dating, Shabbatonim, and
bled herself and asked the Rav of her decent, kind, honest, patient man with a referrals to so many shadchanim who,
shul for assistance in finding her bashert, wonderful personality, who is exactly with all due respect, often fail to return
his advice was simple, “Try an internet what I need. I tried to implore these calls or label a single as “too difficult” or
dating site.” women to throw away their lists of “pre- give up too quickly on their clients – have
requisites” and look at the person, not not proven to be as successful as expect-
When I addressed this group of young the paper. I also told them to stand up ed. Therefore, we seriously need to
women as a whole, I did my best to pro- for themselves to the shadchanim and regroup and rethink how to deal with our
vide chizuk and real words of encourage- the rabbanim who make them feel as singles in a more committed continuum of
ment. I told them of my experience, of though they are “defective” because they greater personal contacts, greater follow-
how I was in my thirties and hadn’t dated haven’t found their bashert yet. I want to ups, and as much networking as possible.
for a few months when my husband empower these women – and all singles.
asked me out for another date. The first I want to awaken their need to take con- If we sincerely help others, Hashem
time we dated wasn’t our time; we both trol of the situation and not be a sheep will listen to our prayers and deal with us
had to experience some of life’s hard les- in a herd of many! in kind.
sons in order for the time to be right for
Shalom al Yisrael.◆
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respectably and were frum, educated, and hope of ever marrying. I resigned myself mothers and fathers, let us show that we
attractive, yet they were not married. to being a wonderful and fun aunt to my do indeed live by the code that we
Loneliness, heartache, and often shame nieces and nephews. But just when I preach; achdus and areivus. If any of
were their common denominator. thought all was lost, there stood my these girls were your daughter, grand-
bashert. daughter, sister, etc., would you walk away
Words can’t describe the emotion I felt from their cry and do nothing?
when speaking with some of these young Truthfully, he was not at all a match
women one on one. Some told me of the for me on paper, as I have described The “singles crisis” is not in the great
difficulties they were having with shad- above. Finally, I could see that Hashem number of girls and boys whose only wish
chanim. Others told me that they have hadn’t forgotten about me. He was say- is to build a bayis ne’eman b’Yisrael;
been sitting at home for more than six ing, “Now is your time. Now you are rather, the crisis is in the lack of commu-
months without their phone ringing with ready.” I was then able to truly look at my nity and personal involvement in helping
the possibility of a date on the other end. husband and not at his “shidduch our children. Our past efforts – such as
Still another told me that when she hum- resume.” I saw him for what he was: a mixers, speed dating, Shabbatonim, and
bled herself and asked the Rav of her decent, kind, honest, patient man with a referrals to so many shadchanim who,
shul for assistance in finding her bashert, wonderful personality, who is exactly with all due respect, often fail to return
his advice was simple, “Try an internet what I need. I tried to implore these calls or label a single as “too difficult” or
dating site.” women to throw away their lists of “pre- give up too quickly on their clients – have
requisites” and look at the person, not not proven to be as successful as expect-
When I addressed this group of young the paper. I also told them to stand up ed. Therefore, we seriously need to
women as a whole, I did my best to pro- for themselves to the shadchanim and regroup and rethink how to deal with our
vide chizuk and real words of encourage- the rabbanim who make them feel as singles in a more committed continuum of
ment. I told them of my experience, of though they are “defective” because they greater personal contacts, greater follow-
how I was in my thirties and hadn’t dated haven’t found their bashert yet. I want to ups, and as much networking as possible.
for a few months when my husband empower these women – and all singles.
asked me out for another date. The first I want to awaken their need to take con- If we sincerely help others, Hashem
time we dated wasn’t our time; we both trol of the situation and not be a sheep will listen to our prayers and deal with us
had to experience some of life’s hard les- in a herd of many! in kind.
sons in order for the time to be right for
Shalom al Yisrael.◆
PrFortoemct FYolouordHinogme
No one likes to walk downstairs to find a basement
submerged in several inches of water.
Did you know your primary sump pump has a life expectancy of 7 years? Replace $50Off OR $100Off
your pump before it’s too late! Our heavy duty, submergible sump pumps will reliably
protect your basement from water damage. And with a battery operated back up
sump pump installed, even during a power outage you won’t have to deal with
the inconvenience and expense of basement flooding again!
We gladly respond on Sundays at no extra charge.
(443) 213-1800
RSeupmlapcePmumenpt Sump Pump & Battery Backup
Sump Pump Replacement
Autograph • 410-585-1513 Exp. July 31, 2016. Not to be combined with any other promotions. Coupon must be present at time of service.
$100 Off is valid when replacing both pumps, at the same time.
BY HAROLD ROSINSKY SHOMER SwHAwBBOwS •.LaICtElNaSEnDtAiNcD-ImNSUeRcEDh•aSAnMiEcDaAlY.ScEoRVmICE
MD Master Plumber/Gas Fitter License #8725 MHIC License #43495
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