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husband the first time. I told him that I A Call to All of Us
wanted to remain “work friends.” But Aby Goldy Krantz
when my sister took ill, I knew that my llow me to appeal to your Jewish One week ago, I had the zechus to be
“work friend” would be able to offer me sense of achdus (oneness) and invited as a speaker to a challa bake.
more support and words of encourage- areivus (responsibility) – yes, a This event was was happening in the
ment than any other friend or relative, sense of responsibility of one Jew basement of Rivky Herman, a Queens
because of what he and his family had to another when one is suffering resident, who organized it and is herself a
been through. and in pain. single young woman. The event was
exclusively for “older single girls,” ages 26
Forget about the color of the Shabbos
tablecloth or which seminary the girl
graduated from. (C’mon, she is 26 and
went to seminary eight years ago!) Forget
the fact that the girl is a bit older. Does
that really matter when the baby cries at
2:00 a.m.? “Honey you are older; go get
the baby.” Take it from me, at 2 a.m., you
can’t even remember your own name, let
alone how old you and your spouse are.
Let these shtusim (nonsensical things) go!
Concentrate on one question: “How badly
do I want to get married?” You may just
open your eyes and mind to many possi-
bilities that you passed up years earlier.
Goldy Krantz is an LMSW, weekly colum-
nist, guest lecturer, and author of the
shidduch dating book, The Best of My
Worst. She can be contacted at
bestofmyworst@hotmail.com
46 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
wanted to remain “work friends.” But Aby Goldy Krantz
when my sister took ill, I knew that my llow me to appeal to your Jewish One week ago, I had the zechus to be
“work friend” would be able to offer me sense of achdus (oneness) and invited as a speaker to a challa bake.
more support and words of encourage- areivus (responsibility) – yes, a This event was was happening in the
ment than any other friend or relative, sense of responsibility of one Jew basement of Rivky Herman, a Queens
because of what he and his family had to another when one is suffering resident, who organized it and is herself a
been through. and in pain. single young woman. The event was
exclusively for “older single girls,” ages 26
Forget about the color of the Shabbos
tablecloth or which seminary the girl
graduated from. (C’mon, she is 26 and
went to seminary eight years ago!) Forget
the fact that the girl is a bit older. Does
that really matter when the baby cries at
2:00 a.m.? “Honey you are older; go get
the baby.” Take it from me, at 2 a.m., you
can’t even remember your own name, let
alone how old you and your spouse are.
Let these shtusim (nonsensical things) go!
Concentrate on one question: “How badly
do I want to get married?” You may just
open your eyes and mind to many possi-
bilities that you passed up years earlier.
Goldy Krantz is an LMSW, weekly colum-
nist, guest lecturer, and author of the
shidduch dating book, The Best of My
Worst. She can be contacted at
bestofmyworst@hotmail.com
46 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
