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Not long after that date, my sister there was my friend Yeshaya Yehuda. We husband. But I got to know my husband,
became ill, and I was spending every started dating very slowly: a dinner here, and I genuinely like the person he is. He
weekend for over a year traveling to and a movie there, and before I knew it, I felt cares for me and puts our family first, and
from Baltimore to spend Shabbos with very comfortable with him, and my list of I can tell from all of his actions that he is
my sister in the hospital and then at a prerequisites went out the window. a good person. Isn’t that what counts in
rehabilitation facility. I did not date for the long run – that the person you marry
close to one year, because I was busy and My husband works hard at his job, but is a good person and will put family first?
physically exhausted from my grueling is not the doctor or lawyer type that I’d
schedule. Baruch Hashem, my sister always dated. He is a bit on the quiet side, I tell singles when I speak at various
made a full recovery (with the help of the not as outgoing as my list demanded. He venues, “My husband is nothing I wanted,
tefilos of Baltimore residents). For a 31- smokes. I never wanted a smoker! But I but he is everything I need.” What’s more
year-old, being out of the shidduch par- don’t really mind it now. He doesn’t have important is that my husband and his
sha isn’t the smartest thing to do. As it is, a regular chavrusa but learns when he is family have experienced hardships that
single women in their upper 20s are able to. To top it off, while my husband no made it easier for him to relate to my
viewed as approaching “old maid” status. longer wears the chasidishe levush family and my sister’s illness than it
I think that’s unfair and cruel, but that’s (clothing), he is from a chasidishe family. would be for someone who hasn’t experi-
how it is. So there I was, 31, and had His many siblings, and his brothers and enced what he has in his life. Hashem
taken myself out of the parsha. brothers-in-law, and his father wear bek- knew it wasn’t my time to marry my hus-
ishes and shtreimels. Goldy Krantz is part band when we went out the first time
Once I began dating again, I found of a chasidishe family! My friends and years ago. My sister got sick right after,
myself disappointed at whom I was being family couldn’t get over how well the and I was needed elsewhere. If I had been
redt to. Shadchanim would tell me that I shtreimels, black hats, and kippa serugas married, I would have felt torn in two. My
should consider myself lucky to get a blended at my chasana. older and only sister needed me, yet I
date, because “the guys want someone in would have been a new kalla, and my
their young 20s,” so I should not com- Had I not known my husband from husband would have needed me as well.
plain. Then there were months when I work, I would never have dated him. A But Hashem showed exactly how kind
wanted to date, but my phone was not smoker without a regular chavrusa, who and benevolent He really is. He had a
ringing, and this time my hiatus from dat- is two years younger than me, from a cha- plan for me. For some reason I “wasn’t
ing was forced upon me. Low and behold, sidishe family! Oh yeah, I forgot to men- feeling it” when I went out with my
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became ill, and I was spending every started dating very slowly: a dinner here, and I genuinely like the person he is. He
weekend for over a year traveling to and a movie there, and before I knew it, I felt cares for me and puts our family first, and
from Baltimore to spend Shabbos with very comfortable with him, and my list of I can tell from all of his actions that he is
my sister in the hospital and then at a prerequisites went out the window. a good person. Isn’t that what counts in
rehabilitation facility. I did not date for the long run – that the person you marry
close to one year, because I was busy and My husband works hard at his job, but is a good person and will put family first?
physically exhausted from my grueling is not the doctor or lawyer type that I’d
schedule. Baruch Hashem, my sister always dated. He is a bit on the quiet side, I tell singles when I speak at various
made a full recovery (with the help of the not as outgoing as my list demanded. He venues, “My husband is nothing I wanted,
tefilos of Baltimore residents). For a 31- smokes. I never wanted a smoker! But I but he is everything I need.” What’s more
year-old, being out of the shidduch par- don’t really mind it now. He doesn’t have important is that my husband and his
sha isn’t the smartest thing to do. As it is, a regular chavrusa but learns when he is family have experienced hardships that
single women in their upper 20s are able to. To top it off, while my husband no made it easier for him to relate to my
viewed as approaching “old maid” status. longer wears the chasidishe levush family and my sister’s illness than it
I think that’s unfair and cruel, but that’s (clothing), he is from a chasidishe family. would be for someone who hasn’t experi-
how it is. So there I was, 31, and had His many siblings, and his brothers and enced what he has in his life. Hashem
taken myself out of the parsha. brothers-in-law, and his father wear bek- knew it wasn’t my time to marry my hus-
ishes and shtreimels. Goldy Krantz is part band when we went out the first time
Once I began dating again, I found of a chasidishe family! My friends and years ago. My sister got sick right after,
myself disappointed at whom I was being family couldn’t get over how well the and I was needed elsewhere. If I had been
redt to. Shadchanim would tell me that I shtreimels, black hats, and kippa serugas married, I would have felt torn in two. My
should consider myself lucky to get a blended at my chasana. older and only sister needed me, yet I
date, because “the guys want someone in would have been a new kalla, and my
their young 20s,” so I should not com- Had I not known my husband from husband would have needed me as well.
plain. Then there were months when I work, I would never have dated him. A But Hashem showed exactly how kind
wanted to date, but my phone was not smoker without a regular chavrusa, who and benevolent He really is. He had a
ringing, and this time my hiatus from dat- is two years younger than me, from a cha- plan for me. For some reason I “wasn’t
ing was forced upon me. Low and behold, sidishe family! Oh yeah, I forgot to men- feeling it” when I went out with my
tion that I am two years older than my
ATTENTION:JauCnsodtSmgEmoMeitsIbstNayoAcokuRGWrfYoreIosl’AmrdvaNbeeEDlreigerStYozgmEtY’osSitos!HhrthoeIieVemlAs?.H STUDENTS Buy 1
SMOOTHIE get
the 2nd one
for HALF PRICE!
Exp. 7-15-16.
Brisses • Sheva Brachos • Graduations • Anniversaries • All Dairy Occasions
1500 Reisterstown Road • Baltimore, MD staimandesign.com
Tel: 410-415-7001 • Fax: 410-415-5350
www.goldbergsbagels.com 31 East PadoniaTReol:a4d1, T0i-m8sot9anim1iua-nm8de5,sMi5gn9D.com
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