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together, this visit needs to be shortened, you’re actually being there for the fam- as well. We have a responsibility to be
even if conversation seems to be going ily or are doing the chesed for your own forgiving and to be equally as compas-
benefit. sionate toward them for well-meaning
PUTTINGwell. Ten to fifteen minutes is likely the intentions. What works for one person
Leaving small gifts, books, or reading will not be right for another, and there
appropriate quantity of time to sit at bed- materials at the door with a card is ex- are few rules that apply equally to ev-
tremely compassionate and thoughtful. eryone. Some people really don’t know
AN IDEALside. The person who is sick is feeling Making tzedaka donations as a zechus what to say or do, but they love and
or calling close family friends and drop- care for you, they are sad that you are
vulnerable, maybe even nauseous, per- ping off some baked goods there, instead hurting, and they want you to heal and
of showing up at the house, are other feel well again.
INTO ACTIONhaps struggling with personal hygiene, compassionate ways to be helpful. Offer-
ing to help the adult children of the pa- As a survivor so beautifully said, “I
and your presence, while approved prior tient with a dinner or a carpool so that imagined that the insensitive words that
to coming, may begin to feel burden- the child can be attentive to the parent were said by those who just don’t know
some in that moment. Remember, too, is extremely supportive and appreciated better are swirling in the air, and I exer-
that cancer patients are immuno-com- and is an often-overlooked opportunity cise my right to change them around to
promised. Absolutely no one should ever for chesed. what I need in that moment and to allow
visit who has a cold or has been exposed them to be internalized to provide me
to illness. uuu comfort.”
uuu Our Baltimore Torah community is We are a community of rachmanim,
at its finest when families face crisis and we would never intentionally cause
Compassionate Helping: Tune in to the and illness. The outpouring of sup- pain to those who are hurting. Let’s learn
specific needs of the family in crisis to be port, consideration, and chesed lifts from those who are suffering and those
most helpful. up those that are struggling, and high- who are surviving how to confront ill-
lights the best that a Jewish commu- ness with grace and dignity and how to
As a compassionate community, nity has to offer. And those who have truly be there to support them with kind-
steeped in chesed, our instinct is to want a difficult diagnosis and their families ness and compassion.u
to be involved and offer help. Everyone have a responsibility to the community
wants to feel like they are able to give to
the family in crisis, and yet, families of-
ten have different needs than those the
community is recognizing. The needs of
each family and choleh are different, and
it’s important to ask yourself whether
Monday, September 11
8:30 p.m.
Please email names of newcomers to Welcome Newcomers Night
Baltimore to nshei@netzero.net
November 11
Become a N’shei Member Only $20
Mail to: Sandy Cohen, 6314 Cross Country Blvd., 21215
98 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
even if conversation seems to be going ily or are doing the chesed for your own forgiving and to be equally as compas-
benefit. sionate toward them for well-meaning
PUTTINGwell. Ten to fifteen minutes is likely the intentions. What works for one person
Leaving small gifts, books, or reading will not be right for another, and there
appropriate quantity of time to sit at bed- materials at the door with a card is ex- are few rules that apply equally to ev-
tremely compassionate and thoughtful. eryone. Some people really don’t know
AN IDEALside. The person who is sick is feeling Making tzedaka donations as a zechus what to say or do, but they love and
or calling close family friends and drop- care for you, they are sad that you are
vulnerable, maybe even nauseous, per- ping off some baked goods there, instead hurting, and they want you to heal and
of showing up at the house, are other feel well again.
INTO ACTIONhaps struggling with personal hygiene, compassionate ways to be helpful. Offer-
ing to help the adult children of the pa- As a survivor so beautifully said, “I
and your presence, while approved prior tient with a dinner or a carpool so that imagined that the insensitive words that
to coming, may begin to feel burden- the child can be attentive to the parent were said by those who just don’t know
some in that moment. Remember, too, is extremely supportive and appreciated better are swirling in the air, and I exer-
that cancer patients are immuno-com- and is an often-overlooked opportunity cise my right to change them around to
promised. Absolutely no one should ever for chesed. what I need in that moment and to allow
visit who has a cold or has been exposed them to be internalized to provide me
to illness. uuu comfort.”
uuu Our Baltimore Torah community is We are a community of rachmanim,
at its finest when families face crisis and we would never intentionally cause
Compassionate Helping: Tune in to the and illness. The outpouring of sup- pain to those who are hurting. Let’s learn
specific needs of the family in crisis to be port, consideration, and chesed lifts from those who are suffering and those
most helpful. up those that are struggling, and high- who are surviving how to confront ill-
lights the best that a Jewish commu- ness with grace and dignity and how to
As a compassionate community, nity has to offer. And those who have truly be there to support them with kind-
steeped in chesed, our instinct is to want a difficult diagnosis and their families ness and compassion.u
to be involved and offer help. Everyone have a responsibility to the community
wants to feel like they are able to give to
the family in crisis, and yet, families of-
ten have different needs than those the
community is recognizing. The needs of
each family and choleh are different, and
it’s important to ask yourself whether
Monday, September 11
8:30 p.m.
Please email names of newcomers to Welcome Newcomers Night
Baltimore to nshei@netzero.net
November 11
Become a N’shei Member Only $20
Mail to: Sandy Cohen, 6314 Cross Country Blvd., 21215
98 u www.wherewhatwhen.com u
