An important component of estate planning is the Advanced Medical Directive, sometimes referred to as the Living Will. The importance of a carefully drafted, halachically-correct Advanced Medical Directive cannot be overstated.

First a little background. In 1990, the Supreme Court of the United States, in the case of Cruzan v. Director Miss Dept. of Health, established the constitutional right to direct one’s own medical treatment. The Cruzan case was quickly picked up under the banner of protecting the “right to die,” defining the right to refuse medical treatment. It should be noted that while the banner of “right to die” was the most typical framework for discussion, the Supreme Court also established the “right to live.”

We spend our lives looking for the people who will change us forever. When we find them, we do whatever we can to keep them close. Some of these people are friends we meet in school, neighbors, or colleagues, people we are naturally surrounded by. However, some of these people come into our lives unexpectedly. I never really thought about how people came to be major players in my life. That changed during my senior year at Bais Yaakov.

As Bais Yaakov alumnae know, there are two options for general studies in 12th grade. Every senior has to complete mandatory classes, and then a student has the option to choose from courses offered by CCBC or fill her afternoon with a selection of electives. I chose electives. By the first day of school, most of my schedule was complete. However, even with a finished schedule, the first few days are spent fine-tuning schedules and figuring out every class. My problem was that I was accidentally scheduled for two of the same class and was left with a gap in my schedule.

Rabbi Menachem Mendel of Rimanov was an important chasidic leader in Poland known for his asceticism, his wisdom, and, parenthetically, his mystical support of Napoleon. He said, “I was never in need of anything until I already had it.”

Here’s an anecdote worth preserving in anyone’s album of memories. It has a similar message: I was driving through upstate New York to visit my children and grandchildren, when I pulled into a rustic gas station for a refill. I noticed a sign announcing free coffee at a department store five miles up the road. I went on my way and soon approached this store, upon which was spread an elephantine banner that read, “If we don’t have it, you probably don’t need it.”

The store was a one-of-a-kind type of place, large and rural and unlike the big box stores in the urban areas where we live. It was a charming place, fully vested in serving a well-defined countrified demographic. Nothing there attracted me as a purchase for my grandchildren, but I did take something away from that store – something much more valuable.

I know it is election season by the brochures I’ve been getting in the mail and the signs I’ve seen all over the neighborhood promoting people running for various offices. Most of the time, I do not understand what office these people are running for and why I should vote for one over the other. And I wonder what power they have, anyway, once elected? They promise to do everything from getting rid of crime to collecting the garbage more often, but can they really make those things happen?

 This article is an elementary guide to the workings of Maryland politics for those readers who also don’t understand much about it but would like to. If you don’t care, or you already know everything, just skip this. It is not meant for you!

The election on June 26, 2018 is for state as well as county positions. (Baltimore City does not have municipal elections now.) It is a primary election, which means that voters must vote for the slate that matches their registration. Only Democrats can vote for the Democrat candidates, and only Republicans can vote for the Republican candidates. The winners of each party’s primary will then run against each other in November.

Citizens may also register as independents, neither Republican nor Democrat, but then they cannot vote in the primary elections. Since Maryland is a state with a large Democrat population, some races only have Democratic candidates. (For example, in the race for delegates for the 41st district, only Democrats are running.) Even when a Republican is running for an office, in parts of the state, like Baltimore City, he/she is likely to lose the general election in the face of the overwhelming majority of Democrat voters. That means that, in many races, the primary election is more important than the general election. Many people who are inclined to vote Republican therefore register as Democrats, so as to have a voice in choosing the office holder.

Shavuos is the second of the three great regalim, yet it seems like the stepchild of the holidays. How can Shavuos, a short two days at the cusp of summer, compare to mighty Sukkos and Pesach, which require great exertion and expensive purchases?

On Shavuos, things are rather optional. It is a minhag (custom) to decorate with flowers, a minhag to eat dairy, and a minhag for men to learn all night. One visit to the supermarket and we’re set. If we want to get fancy, we can spend the week preparing dairy delicacies that contribute thousands of calories to our meals, though they are but tangentially related to the Yom Tov. While we have hopefully spent the last 49 nights counting the Omer, even if we missed a few or all of the nights, Shavuos is observed in the same way.

How can we appreciate Shavuos without the efforts and sleepless nights of the other Yamim Tovim? Megillas Rus, which we read on Shavuos morning, can help. Hidden within the story is the key to the spiritual growth available on this holiday of the giving of the Torah.

This is the time of the year we bring out our trusty cheesecake recipe and wonder why we only make it once a year! Whether you’re going with the tried and true, this year, or want to get bold with something new, here are some tips to making your cheesecakes fantastic: 

• If you are using a mixer, mix on low speed using paddles so that you don’t add air to the batter. It’s important to never whip your ingredients.
• Bring all the ingredients to room temperature before starting.
• Do not put your spring form pan directly in water; place the water bath on a different rack. 
• Cheesecake is not a cake. It’s really a custard. If you bake it at a lower temperature, it sets creamier, even though it takes longer to cook. 325° for about 45 minutes is about right.
• After baking, turn off the oven and leave the door closed for an hour – no peeking!
• Allow the cake to come to room temperature and then refrigerate overnight if possible.
• Remove from the refrigerator about 30 minutes to an hour before serving.

Over 3,300 years ago, on the sixth day of Sivan, an event took place that altered the course of history. With bursts of thunder and lightning, a firestorm descended on a desert mountain, and at the epicenter was the holy Shechina. On this first Shavuos, Hashem revealed His glory to his young nation, and the Jewish people accepted the Torah and its mission to study it and cleave to Hashem.

But why am I telling you this? Everyone already knows about matan Torah. It is because I am often asked a certain question: Why are you learning in kollel? Despite the fact that a good percentage of our young men and women aspire to, and actually participate in, the kollel life – and although many in our community generously support it and believe in its importance – it remains a much misunderstood topic.

But where should understanding come from? All too often, those in kollel choose to remain quiet about their motivation. Perhaps they are too involved in their learning, or perhaps they feel unequipped to deal with this question, the answer to which is existential and very personal. I have been encouraged to speak up, and so I sat to down to try to articulate my thoughts. I will share them with you as answers to a series of questions:

Mrs. Chaya Lasson is Program Manager at Gilchrist Jewish Hospice Program. Here, she explains the concept of hospice and its benefits to families.

Emma Michelsohn:  How would you define hospice to someone unfamiliar with it?

Chaya Lasson: It’s important to know that hospice is not a place but a philosophy. It is a specialized type of personalized care that is completely centered around the needs of the patient and the patient’s family. The main idea is that care should be personal as each patient has a situation that it completely unique to him or her alone. With hospice, a collaborative and interdisciplinary team addresses the patient’s physical needs – the hospice’s medical staff are experts at pain management – and in addition, tend to the emotional and spiritual needs of the patient and the patient’s family. This kind of inclusive care is so helpful to the patient and their loved ones, and it is unique to hospice care.

“Listen, daughter, and see, and incline your ear, and forget your people and your father’s house.” (Psalms 45:11)

I first met Chana Mejia, age 54, when she came with some of her friends to a restaurant near Tel Aviv’s boardwalk and introduced herself and friends to a tour group from Baltimore led by Rabbi Dovid Katz. She “represented” the Filipino Jewish community in Israel and delivered an inspirational message of hope and faith. Many of us were quite moved by what the soft-spoken, diminutive lady had to say, and after she spoke, Mrs. Karen Katz approached me and said, “Sam, you have to write an article about this community for the Where What When!”

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Getting a hold of Chana after that evening wasn’t easy. Finally, she suggested that I come to her upcoming Chanukah party and see the community for myself. I gladly accepted the offer.

The night of the party, I lit my menorah, grabbed a bite, and hurried off to Tel Aviv, exiting from the Ayalon Freeway onto the Kibbutz Galuyot ramp, where I made a right turn onto the main thoroughfare, Lechi Street. The adjoining side streets were dimly lit. The few people I saw outside didn’t even look Jewish: an Eritrean on a bicycle and a Ukrainian dragging a pushcart. It felt like I was back in Baltimore, crossing Northern Parkway, and I was nervous. Welcome to Hatikva, a rundown, working class neighborhood in Tel Aviv. The one-story dwellings were bunched together and quite modest, but the streets and sidewalks were clean. After making a U-turn, I made a right on Hatikva Street (how apropos!) and parked down the block. Then I searched for an address – she said it was near the community center – going through a maze of dark alleyways.

Ruthie and Menachem Schwartz* have five children in day schools and yeshivas who are thriving. An additional child of theirs, Ari, age 16, has not been doing as well. He’s been suffering for the past three years from a form of skin cancer that, after a short remission, has been getting worse. The Schwartzes are beside themselves with worry but don’t know where to turn. Nothing seems to be helping on a long-term basis. They don’t know anyone in the community who has faced this difficult challenge and feel very isolated in their suffering.

Fearing the stigma associated with this serious disease, they have avoided making his condition known, trying to spare their other children the embarrassment of being known as the siblings of a child with this challenge. They are especially concerned that if word gets out, their daughter next in line to marry will be shunned for shidduchim and the younger boys will have problems getting into good yeshivas.

The time from Pesach to Shavuot, as we renew our preparation for the receiving of the Torah, is a particularly apt one to reflect on fundamental values. That becomes even more important – and difficult – in what seems to be a truly “upside-down” world, possibly the most worrisome state of affairs in quite some time.

It is consequently appropriate to dissect key ongoing trends to see whether certain patterns can be discerned, and then to see whether one can see the way ahead in some fashion.

It is not only the rapid pace of events but also their hectic tempo that are disturbing and make them hard, if not impossible, to grasp. How can one make sense of these rapid-fire events both here and abroad? Hardly a day goes by in the U.S. without some mass shooting – whether at schools, stores, or malls? Can we possibly explain those other apparent innovations of “Palestinian” terrorists – the random knifing of civilians or the use of vehicles as weapons of mass murder, in Israel, Europe, and now in Canada? Clearly, not all of these have been the work of terrorists. The latest, in Canada, so far seems not to have been. Neither was the horrendous mass shooting in Las Vegas or recent school shootings. Nevertheless, the spread and adoption of the techniques by unbalanced individuals of all stripes is new to the digital age and represents an alarming trend. The types of people who are committing these crimes were always there. They somehow did not tend to act out in this manner. It is as if some psychological barrier has been breeched, as if such behavior is now an acceptable manner to seek attention and vent feelings.

Rebbetzin Fruma Rochel Altusky has several claims to fame. Among them are her maternal grandparents, American Torah pioneers Rabbi Yaakov Yosef and Aidel Herman (of All for the Boss fame) and her illustrious parents, Harav Chaim Pinchas and Rebbetzin Basha Scheinberg. But if you ask her what she feels her biggest yichus is, she will tell you it is being the first girl to attend the very first Bais Yaakov high school in America.

Rebbetzin Altusky’s life spans three continents. She was born and spent her earliest years in Mir, Poland, where her father was learning in the yeshiva. Her parents moved to the Lower East Side of Manhattan in 1935, when she was four years old. She grew up in New York and married Rav Chaim Dov Altusky. After teach for many years in New York, the Altuskys moved to the Mattersdorf section of Yerushalayim in 1965, joining her parents after the relocation of her father’s yeshiva, Yeshivas Torah Ore.