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The references listed on the CELEBRATING 32 YEARS!
shidduch profile will likely be B ROTH ERS B R OT HE R S
providing the first impression 2014 B RO T HE RS
on one’s behalf, and one must be B ROT H ER S
sure they are the right people Previous Awards
2014 – 2007
for the job, and are ready
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and able to complete the task
“efficiently and successfully.
by Shlomo Goldberger
Director, The Shidduch Center of Baltimore
know just what to say and be ready to say it. Before putting
anyone on the reference list, it is vital to call them and ask if
they are comfortable being a reference. This also gives the ref-
erence the courtesy of preparing what they might say about
the single person when the calls come in. Additionally, there
may be people on one’s list who have the most wonderful
things to say, but are just not good at fielding shidduch calls.
If one senses that to be case, when speaking with the poten-
tial reference, it would be best not to include them in the ref-
”erence list. It is nothing personal, it is purely a matter of mak-
ing sure that the references listed are those who are more
adroit at the undertaking.
While the above may seem obvious, there is a strong ten-
dency when putting together a profile to think of five to ten
people who seem like a good fit, quickly list their names and
numbers, and just hope for the best or assume it will be all
right. There is no question that friends, teachers, and rabban-
im all want to help, and want to vouch for the singles they
know with all of their heart. However, that does not mean
that each of them is the right person for this job; and even if
they are, it is most advantageous to give the references
advance notice so that they may mentally and emotionally
prepare themselves for the conversation.
Even though doing so requires a little bit of extra time, a
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shidduch profile will likely be B ROTH ERS B R OT HE R S
providing the first impression 2014 B RO T HE RS
on one’s behalf, and one must be B ROT H ER S
sure they are the right people Previous Awards
2014 – 2007
for the job, and are ready
32
and able to complete the task
“efficiently and successfully.
by Shlomo Goldberger
Director, The Shidduch Center of Baltimore
know just what to say and be ready to say it. Before putting
anyone on the reference list, it is vital to call them and ask if
they are comfortable being a reference. This also gives the ref-
erence the courtesy of preparing what they might say about
the single person when the calls come in. Additionally, there
may be people on one’s list who have the most wonderful
things to say, but are just not good at fielding shidduch calls.
If one senses that to be case, when speaking with the poten-
tial reference, it would be best not to include them in the ref-
”erence list. It is nothing personal, it is purely a matter of mak-
ing sure that the references listed are those who are more
adroit at the undertaking.
While the above may seem obvious, there is a strong ten-
dency when putting together a profile to think of five to ten
people who seem like a good fit, quickly list their names and
numbers, and just hope for the best or assume it will be all
right. There is no question that friends, teachers, and rabban-
im all want to help, and want to vouch for the singles they
know with all of their heart. However, that does not mean
that each of them is the right person for this job; and even if
they are, it is most advantageous to give the references
advance notice so that they may mentally and emotionally
prepare themselves for the conversation.
Even though doing so requires a little bit of extra time, a
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