When there are wars in Israel, they arouse fierce emotions. To the extent that they involve us personally, they make us ask ourselves who we are and what is important to us. Here is a “war story” from my own past.

A friend of mine, a pulpit rabbi in a large city in the United States, was approached by parents from his congregation when the 1990 Gulf War broke out. Israel was being bombed by Saddam Hussein of Iraq. The couple had a son in his “gap year” learning in a Jerusalem yeshiva, and they were concerned. They asked the rabbi if they could bring their son home. He answered, “You can do it, but realize that if you bring the boy home, he will remember for the rest of his life that you pulled him out of Jewish history.” This gave them new focus, and they let their son stay.

Seeking to use some expiring travel credits, I booked a quick visit to El Salvador last month. With $160 roundtrip non-stop fares from Washington Dulles, easy and cheap local connectivity using Uber, and an impressive Jewish community, this seemed like a no-brainer.

There must be a catch, I thought. Why was it so cheap? Was El Salvador dangerous? Initial research showed that El Salvador was in fact – but is no longer – among the most dangerous countries in Latin America. In a complete recent turnaround, it is now considered among the safest! Having visited much of Central America years earlier but avoiding El Salvador due to safety, I was excited to finally add this country to my list. With the goal of minimizing time away from the family – and missing no more than two morning drives to TA – I planned for a very short visit.

“Tu b’Shvat higi’ah, chag ha’ilanot….” So go the lyrics of the famous children’s song. Tu b’Shvat, the delightful new year of the trees, is when we eat the sheva minim, the special fruits of the Eretz Yisrael. They are wheat, barley, grapes, figs, pomegranates, olives, and dates, which are mentioned in the pasuk (verse) in the order of their ripening.

Besides being delicious, each of the seven species was associated by the mekubalim (kabbalists) with the one of the seven sefiros. Wheat corresponds to chesed (kindness), barley to gevurah (strength), grapes to tiferes (harmony), figs to netzach (perseverance), pomegranates to hod (humility), olives to yesod (foundation), and dates to malchus (royalty). The kabbalists ate these foods in 16^th century Tzfas at a Tu b’Shvat seder, a custom that has had a revival in our time.

When I meet youngsters heading off to school in Israel, I give them a bracha: “May you be hungry and lost and in desperate need of an invite, and may this suffering last for a full five minutes, and may someone then come along and invite you.” During those precious minutes, this young person will learn a valuable lesson. He or she will learn what it feels like to be in need, something that those born with a silver spoon in their mouth might not be aware of. Those few minutes can lead them to an amazing resolve in life.

I want to propose a new chesed program. Baltimore is known as a city with a multitude of chesed organizations, yet there is one profound mitzvah that is being overlooked in our community. Especially now, when we are going through the current war in Israel, we are all aware that chesed and Jewish unity will carry the day.

After 66 years of living in Baltimore – after 29 consecutive years of serving on community boards and watching the tremendous growth and changes – it is time to say good-bye and thank you. Adriane and I are making aliyah. There is so much to be happy for, yet much to ponder.

As we progress through life, we accumulate many documents – forms, credit card statements, records, reports, legal agreements, authorizations, and more. What do you do with all the papers you receive? Knowing what to do with these papers is essential for maintaining an organized and secure financial life. Some documents should be stored forever in a safe place, with a copy in a different location. Some documents should be kept for a short time, others can be thrown away, and others should be shredded. Here are some practical guidelines tailored for individuals over 50 – but applicable at any age – to help you manage your records effectively.

My brother Aharon Dovid is 16 years younger than I am. He was born when I was in the 11^th grade. When I am with him and some of his students, he likes to introduce me as his younger sister. The students look a little shocked, but it always gets a good laugh.

Aharon Dovid, also known as Rabbi E, is an expert at getting people to laugh and connecting to others. All the things he used to do that annoyed his teachers when he was in school he now uses for his career. To be a kiruv professional, you need those skills. Aharon Dovid works as a kiruv rabbi on the NYU campus, where the students he meets love him and look up to him. I know he is always busy, but I am not sure what he does all day. I thought it would be interesting to hear about his activities, goals, what he considers a success, and whether things have changed since the war in Israel began.

A cold wind is howling outside, and sleet is predicted for tomorrow. The children are home from school and whining that they’re bored. It’s that time of year again – midwinter break! Time to book a flight to Florida.

But wait a minute… who said we can afford that? And who said it’s even a good idea?

If you find yourself the “only” family on the block not departing for fairer climes, don’t be disappointed and don’t despair. Here are some ideas for stay-at-home activities to entertain everyone and bring you closer together as a family.

When Chaya* got back from seminary and started to explore career options, her priorities were that it should be family-friendly, something she enjoys, and that the schooling would not put her heavily in debt. She had worked in office management but wanted something more meaningful. After obtaining a bachelor’s degree, she got a job teaching at Bnos Yisroel’s middle school.

“I decided to teach, having no idea if I would be successful or not,” recalls Chaya. “Teaching was very demanding with a lot of prep work to do at home, but I loved it and found it very fulfilling.”

Bnos Yisroel started raising teachers’ salaries while Chaya was teaching there. She says this made it more feasible for her to teach. But even more importantly, it was a very concrete statement about how the school values their teachers. 

Some years ago, while studying the Rambam’s introductory chapters to the Mishnaic tractate of Avos, I came across a paragraph that has shifted the course of my life. You might also find it interesting.

First, some context: The Rambam was explaining how the complete human being doesn’t renounce earthly pursuits, substituting soul for body, quashing self in favor of G-d. Instead, he uses his mind to manage every aspect of his material life and will, directing them toward wellness and wholeness. He notices the temptations to spin right or left but chooses instead to stick with the straight course.

What is the objective that people seek to achieve when they’re well and whole? Where are we headed in life when not looking only for physical pleasure? Sorry, but we’re not going to get into this yet. The spiritual journey doesn’t begin with metaphysics. It begins with becoming a person.